What is Self-esteem and Why Do You Need Healthy (High) Self-Esteem? | S.Sulianah | Grapholistic International

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What is the meaning of self-esteem? Self-esteem is how you look at yourself and how you perceive yourself. It has nothing to do with what do others perceived of you or how others feel about you. It is about the perception you have towards yourself, your self-value and self-worth during your high and lows moments. Just so you know, it is not about self-confidence. Self-confidence is in self-esteem. Even though you have self-confidence, it does not mean that you have a healthy self-esteem.

Why do you need to have a healthy self-esteem? ​

Out of all the personality traits, self-esteem is at the higher tier which means you have to make sure that if you don't have a healthy self-esteem, you have to do something about it. Find ways to improve and change this trait. Because if you don't make that first step, you will keep wondering why and why you are not happy, why you worry too much, why you are affected when others don't like you and many other doubts. 

What is low self-esteem? ​

Low self-esteem is the negative opposite of healthy self-esteem. When you have a low self-esteem, your self-doubt is more superior than any positive thoughts you have. ​

What are the signs (symptoms) of low self-esteem?

• When you have a low self-esteem, even though you have achieved all your goals and accomplished at the most highest level in your field or life, you will still feel inadequate.
• You will feel that you have not get what you wanted.
• You will feel like your friends are better than you.
• You will feel not satisfied.
• You will feel like you are not good, even though 'good' or 'best' is subjective.
• Then, you will hate yourself even though millions of your fans around the world love and admire your talent. 
• You will be sensitive to criticism.
• You will feel like everyone hates or dislikes you.
• You will tend to create stories to appeal to others.
• You have the tendency to be arrogant and be grandiose to show off to people around you.
• You will create trouble to gain attention.​
• Talk and criticize about others just so you will feel better about yourself.
• Raising voice to bring down others.
• Not listening to others' opinions but you expect others to listen to yours.
• Afraid to make decisions.
• Worries what others will think about you.

Causes of Low Self-esteem

Low self-esteem can be caused by several factors. It could be developed within you over the years which are influenced by your experiences with others and/or others influencing you. 

• You might be brought up by parents or guardians who pull you down even though you have accomplished in your studies and your career.
• The people you hangout with are influencing you in a negative way that influenced the way you think and behave.
• You might not be aware that you have a low self-esteem all this while. Without self-awareness, you might not realized that the causes of your fear and worries all this time could be due to your low self-esteem. To find out whether you are having a low self-esteem, you can submit your handwriting to us (Grapholistic International) and get it analyzed. 
• Once you are self-aware about yourself, then you have to move forward to improve this limitation so that you can keep moving forward and be grateful about your talents, and you as a person.
• Your past experiences could also be another factor that might be limiting you as a person, limiting your perception towards yourself, the beliefs that you are actually capable to do anything you imagined. These experiences, whether traumatizing, failures or anything that was not positive, were something that made you worry to try one more time. 

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