​Are you seeking an engaging and unique activity to add to your school's upcoming events? Look no further than the fascinating world of graphology, the science of handwriting analysis. Imagine the excitement as students, staff, teachers, educators, and your visitors embark on a personal journey of self-discovery, uncovering hidden strengths and limitations through the stroke of a pen.
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During the session, each participant's handwriting will be carefully analyzed by our experienced graphologist. Through the study of various handwriting traits, our expert will decode the hidden messages within the strokes, curves, and angles. The findings will be shared with the writer, offering them a new perspective on themselves and their unique qualities.​

One of the most incredible aspects of this activity is its ability to reveal strengths that individuals may not have been aware of. Students and staff alike will be amazed at the depth of self-understanding they can gain simply by examining their handwriting. It's a powerful tool that can help them recognize and harness their talents, ultimately leading to personal and academic growth.
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Don't miss out on this exceptional opportunity! We invite you to engage our graphologist for one-to-one handwriting analysis sessions for your school's upcoming events. Let us help you create an unforgettable experience that will empower your school community and inspire a culture of self-discovery and personal development. We have worked with schools, universities, MCYS, NLB for events tailoring to students and youths. Contact us today to discuss how we can tailor our graphology sessions to meet the unique needs and objectives of your school's events. Email us at consultant @ grapholistic.com or Whatsapp +65 - 8200 8775 

Explore the potential within each student and staff at your school's events. Together, let's embark on a journey of self-discovery that will leave a lasting impression on everyone involved.

Are you ready to elevate your events and create an unforgettable experience for your clients and their guests? Reach out to us at consultant @ grapholistic.com to explore how our one-to-one graphology sessions can be tailored to your clients' specific event themes. We will be delighted to provide a comprehensive proposal and showcase the immense value our services can bring to your events.​

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Self-esteem plays a vital role in shaping our lives and overall well-being. It is the perception we hold about ourselves, encompassing our self-worth, abilities, and value. Many individuals struggle with low self-esteem, which can negatively impact various aspects of their lives, from relationships to career growth. Fortunately, there are numerous approaches to improve self-esteem, and one innovative technique gaining recognition is graphotherapy.

​In this article, we will explore the concept of self-esteem, delve into the symptoms of low self-esteem, and discuss effective strategies, including the transformative power of graphotherapy.

Self-esteem is the foundation upon which our emotional and mental well-being is built. It influences our thoughts, feelings, and actions, shaping our perception of ourselves and our capabilities. Individuals with high self-esteem tend to have a positive outlook, exhibit self-acceptance, and approach challenges with confidence. On the other hand, those with low self-esteem may struggle with self-doubt, self-criticism, and an overall negative self-image.

These additional symptoms are derived from my personal observations and experiences while engaging with individuals. Through these interactions, I have noticed consistent trends that reflect the realities of our world, both subtle and overt.

1. Allowing Yourself to Be Bullied or Mistreated: Individuals with low self-esteem often struggle to assert themselves and set boundaries, making them more susceptible to being bullied, mistreated, or taken advantage of by others. They may believe they deserve such treatment or fear the consequences of standing up for themselves. This can happened when you are with your friends and family members not knowing the boundaries that you should set for them.
2. Accepting Criticism with No Control: Those with low self-esteem may internalize criticism excessively, even when it is unwarranted or unjustified. They may lack the confidence to defend themselves or question the validity of the criticism, leading to a continuous cycle of self-doubt and negative self-perception.
3. People-Pleasing Behavior: Individuals with low self-esteem often engage in people-pleasing behaviors, prioritizing others' needs and desires over their own. They seek external validation and approval, compromising their own well-being in the process. This can further erode their self-esteem as they neglect their own wants and aspirations.
4. Avoidance of New Experiences and Challenges: Low self-esteem can lead to a fear of failure and a reluctance to step outside one's comfort zone. Individuals may avoid new experiences, challenges, or opportunities for growth, as they believe they are not capable or deserving of success.
5. Comparison and Jealousy: Those with low self-esteem often compare themselves unfavorably to others, focusing on their perceived shortcomings and feeling inadequate in comparison. This can lead to feelings of jealousy and resentment, further damaging self-esteem.
6. Negative Body Image: Low self-esteem is closely linked to negative body image. Individuals may excessively criticize their physical appearance, striving for an unrealistic ideal and feeling dissatisfied with their bodies. This can lead to body dysmorphia, disordered eating, and a constant sense of self-consciousness.
7. Self-Isolation: Low self-esteem can cause individuals to withdraw from social interactions, feeling unworthy of connections or fearing rejection and judgment. This isolation can reinforce negative self-perception and exacerbate feelings of loneliness and inadequacy.

​By addressing these symptoms and implementing strategies to improve self-esteem, individuals can develop resilience, assertiveness, and a healthier self-image. Remember, self-esteem is a journey, and with dedication and self-care, positive change is possible.

Graphotherapy is a technique that involves making conscious changes to one's handwriting strokes, which in turn can positively impact personality traits and self-perception. By altering specific handwriting traits, individuals can gradually transform their self-esteem and overall outlook on life. Here are some key handwriting traits associated with low self-esteem and how to alter them through graphotherapy:
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1. t-Bar's Placement: The placement of the t-bar in the middle zone of your letters, particularly above the center zone, signifies high self-esteem and self-assurance. Encourage yourself to write with a higher t-bar to reinforce feelings of self-worth and assertiveness.
2. Signature Size: A small signature in comparison to your main handwriting indicates a lack of self-importance and positive self-perspectives. Expand the size of your signature to symbolize a stronger presence and belief in your abilities.
3. Inferiority Complex: Graphotherapy can help alleviate feelings of inferiority. Practice enlarging the size of your writing gradually, reflecting a growing sense of self-worth and value.
4. Striking off Signature: Cancelling one's signature represents self-neglect and a desire to go unnoticed. Replace the habit of canceling your signature with a complete and confident finish. Get rid of the line on your signature that is cancelling your presence. Embrace your existence and assert your presence in the world.

Even individuals who have achieved remarkable success can grapple with low self-esteem. One striking example I've observed is a globally renowned artist, who, despite being at the pinnacle of her career, displays a t-bar placement in her handwriting indicative of low self-esteem. Publicly acknowledging her struggles, she has shed light on the impact of self-esteem issues. Another noticeable behavior is her tendency to quickly enter new relationships after each breakup. While it is uncertain whether this is for genuine connection or merely a facade, her narrative suggests that she may associate being alone with a lack of self-worth. It's important to note that my analysis is not intended as judgment but is based on my ten years of observation, which has led me to these recent conclusions. 

​This example demonstrates that external accomplishments do not necessarily guarantee a strong sense of self-worth, emphasizing the importance of working on self-esteem from within.

In addition to graphotherapy, there are various strategies and techniques that can help improve self-esteem. Here are some effective solutions to enhance self-esteem:

1. Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes and that self-criticism only hinders growth. Embrace self-compassion by practicing self-care, engaging in positive self-talk, and forgiving yourself for past mistakes.
2. Challenge Negative Thoughts: Identify and challenge negative thoughts that contribute to low self-esteem. Replace self-defeating thoughts with positive and realistic affirmations. Surround yourself with supportive and encouraging people who uplift you and reinforce your self-worth.
3. Set Achievable Goals: Set small, achievable goals for yourself, and celebrate each accomplishment along the way. Success breeds confidence, and by setting realistic goals, you can boost your self-esteem and build a sense of competence.
4. Focus on Strengths and Accomplishments: Shift your focus from weaknesses and failures to your strengths and achievements. Make a list of your positive qualities, skills, and past successes. Remind yourself of these whenever self-doubt creeps in.
5. Practice Self-Care: Prioritize self-care activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Engage in activities that bring you joy and make you feel good about yourself. This can include exercise, hobbies, meditation, spending time in nature, or pursuing creative outlets.
6. Surround Yourself with Positive Influences: Surround yourself with supportive, positive, and uplifting individuals who appreciate and value you. Limit your exposure to toxic relationships and negative environments that undermine your self-esteem.
7. Seek Professional Help if Needed: If low self-esteem persists and significantly impacts your daily life, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor. They can provide valuable guidance, techniques, and tools to help you improve your self-esteem and work through underlying issues.
8. Practice Assertiveness: Learn to express your needs, opinions, and boundaries in a respectful and assertive manner. Developing assertiveness skills can empower you, boost your self-confidence, and improve your relationships.
9. Engage in Positive Self-Reflection: Take time for self-reflection and introspection. Identify your values, passions, and aspirations. Engaging in self-discovery can deepen self-awareness and provide a clearer sense of identity and purpose, bolstering self-esteem. If saying it out is hard for you, write it down on your diary to express your feelings.
10. Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection: Embrace the journey of self-improvement and understand that it's not about achieving perfection but making progress. Celebrate even the smallest steps forward, as each one contributes to your growth and self-esteem.

Remember, improving self-esteem is a gradual process that requires patience and consistent effort. By combining these strategies, including graphotherapy, you can cultivate a positive self-image, increase self-worth, and lead a more fulfilling life.

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This comprehensive eBook, written by graphologist S.Sulianah, explores the power of handwriting analysis and graphotherapy to help you gain insight into your personality, overcome negative habits and behaviors, and develop positive traits and habits that will set you on the path to success.

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This article is written for the 16th episode of Grapholistic Podcast! In this episode, we shared about how you can use graphotherapy to build confidence in your handwriting, and ultimately, in yourself. Read episode 16 transcript.

As a handwriting analyst and HR and Management Consultant with over 20 years of experience, I've seen first-hand how handwriting can be a window into a person's personality and character. And one of the key traits that can hold people back in their personal and professional lives is a lack of confidence and low self-perception about oneself.

It's important to note that confidence and self-esteem are not the same thing. You can be confident in a particular area or situation, but still struggle with low self-esteem overall. Conversely, you can have high self-esteem but lack confidence in certain areas.
So, how can you use graphotherapy to build confidence in your handwriting and yourself? Let's dive in.

The first step is to identify any negative self-talk that may be holding you back. These are the thoughts and beliefs that tell you you're not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough to achieve your goals. They can be subtle, but they can have a big impact on your confidence.

One way to identify negative self-talk is by looking at your handwriting. Specifically, look at the placement of the t-bar on the t-stem. If it's low, it can signify low self-esteem and a tendency to look down on yourself. This can lead to a pessimistic outlook and a belief that you can't succeed, which can contribute to depression.

To combat this negative self-talk, use graphotherapy to practice raising the t-bar on the t-stem. Refer to image as follows. This can help you shift your mindset and start seeing yourself in a more positive light. 

Remember, don't let the t-bar fly off from its root as shown below. This can symbolize a tendency to talk but not put your words into action. ​

Another way to build confidence through graphotherapy is by examining the size and placement of your signature. If your signature is smaller than the main composition of your handwriting, it can signify a lack of confidence and a belief that you're not as good as others. Conversely, if your signature is larger, it can signify a desire for attention and recognition.

To build confidence in your signature, practice making it slightly larger than your main composition, and more prominent. This can help you feel more confident and assertive in your interactions with others.

Of course, building confidence is not just about changing your handwriting. It also requires changing your mindset and taking action to overcome your fears and doubts. Here are a few tips to help you get started:

1. First and foremost, practice positive self-talk. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones, and focus on your strengths and accomplishments rather than your weaknesses.

2. Set small, achievable goals. Start with something manageable and work your way up. Celebrate your successes along the way.

3. Step outside of your comfort zone. Try something new, even if it scares you. You might surprise yourself with what you are capable of.

4. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people. Seek out friends, family members, or colleagues who will encourage and uplift you. Stay away from the ones who likes to complain and demean you. Their negative speeches could eventually let your confidence down.

In addition to these tips, consider seeking out professional help if you're struggling with low self-esteem or confidence. A therapist or counselor can help you work through your feelings and develop strategies for building your confidence and self-esteem. You can also get your handwritings analysed first to find out more about yourself that could be hidden from you all this while. And through Graphotherapy and personality development consultation, we could support your journey to building your self-esteem and confidence.

​Finally, if you're interested in learning more about graphotherapy and how it can help you build confidence in your handwriting and yourself, check out our recently published eBooks.

In conclusion, building self-confidence is a journey that takes time and effort. By using graphotherapy techniques and other strategies, you can take steps towards a more confident and fulfilling life. Remember to be patient and kind to yourself. Confidence is not something that is fixed or unattainable - it is a skill that can be developed and nurtured.

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This Graphology tutorial is brought to you by Grapholistic International - Your Handwritings and Characters Analyst. Procrastination can be a common problem among employees which will affect you as an employer and your business operations. It can lead to non-completion of projects, missed deadlines, and poor productivity.

However, by analyzing employees' handwriting, you can identify their personality traits and tailor strategies to help them overcome procrastination.

In this tutorial, we will discuss the techniques for employees to eliminate procrastination and non-completion of projects by identifying their personalities through their handwriting.

The first step is to know what is the science of handwriting analysis and how it works.

Handwriting analysis or another term that we use is Graphology, is a technique used to identify personality traits by examining the strokes and patterns of handwriting.

Handwriting analysis can reveal an individual's level of self-discipline, motivation, and focus, which are important factors in eliminating procrastination.

There are different types of handwriting, including cursive, print, and a mixture of both.

The second step is to find handwriting samples of your employees. Obtain your employee's handwriting through the notes they wrote, and letters. Or you can get them to write on a paper on topics like their opinions, feedbacks, plans or essays. Natural handwriting is required for an accurate analysis.

Once you had collected the samples, it is time to go to the next step that is to analyze 
the handwritings and find out more about their personality traits.

These are several handwriting traits that can indicate a tendency towards procrastination and incomplete work. If an individual's handwriting has irregular letter size, it may indicate a lack of focus and attention to detail, which can lead to procrastination and incomplete work. Inconsistent spacing between words or letters
can indicate a lack of structure and organization, which can lead to difficulty in completing tasks and procrastination.

Handwriting with heavy pressure can indicate tension, stress, and a tendency towards perfectionism, which can lead to tiredness and losing unnecessary energy.

A lack of connectives, such as loops or curls, can indicate a lack of follow-through and commitment to tasks, which can contribute to tasks in-completion.

Excessive loops and curves in handwriting can indicate a tendency towards overthinking and indecisiveness, which can lead to focusing on areas that are not necessary.

Handwriting with an uneven baseline can indicate a lack of structure and organization, which can lead to a roller-coaster of emotion and self-perspective. Leading to inferiority and low self-confident to complete the job.

Inconsistent slant in handwriting can indicate a lack of emotional control and instability, which can contribute to low self-confident and worries in completing the project.

T-bars that are incomplete, can indicate laziness and low energy which will lead to doing tasks halfway and losing focus of the objective.

Short t-bars can indicate low ambition. Doing only the bare minimum and may not be
meeting the project requirements. Last but not least, wide right margin can indicate over cautiousness.

Employee may be unsure, insecure, or without self-confidence that he can complete the project as required.

You can also consult our professional graphologist to help with the analysis.

The next step after you managed to identify the personality traits that are relevant to procrastination, such as impulsiveness, lack of focus, low self-esteem, or perfectionism.

Discuss with the employees how these traits can affect their ability to complete tasks on time and provide examples.

Once the personality traits have been identified, it's time to tailor strategies that can help each employee overcome their procrastination tendencies.

For example, if your employee has low self-esteem, they feel that they are not qualified to do the job. You can suggest positive affirmations, setting achievable goals, and focusing on their strengths. If your employee is perfectionist, high possibility your employee feels overwhelmed as they need the results to be perfect which eventually will cause delays and stress to themselves and the team.

You can suggest setting realistic expectations, breaking down large projects into smaller tasks, and prioritizing tasks. Finally, provide your employees with resources that can help them overcome procrastination, such as books, articles, and apps that focus on time management, goal setting, and productivity.

Encourage them to explore these resources and share their insights with their colleagues.

In conclusion, identifying personality traits through handwriting analysis can be an effective technique to help employees overcome procrastination and improve productivity.

By tailoring strategies to their personality traits, employees can develop better habits and achieve their goals.

Remember to provide ongoing support and encouragement to help employees stay on track and continue to grow. It's important to note that handwriting analysis should be approached with caution. These traits should not be taken as definitive proof of procrastination or incomplete work.

However, by identifying these traits, employees can become more aware of their tendencies. And both employer and employee can work together to take steps to overcome the problem of procrastination and the in-completion of projects and tasks assigned.

To become proficient in studying handwritings of your employees, it's recommended to attend training sessions and workshops, or read books and articles on the subject.

Grapholistic International also provides handwriting analysis services for companies to learn more about your employees personality. This will reduce your burden in making decisions related to your employees' performances.

This Graphology tutorial is brought to you by Grapholistic International - Your Handwritings and Characters Analyst.

To watch more videos related to handwriting analysis and managing your employees' personality like in this tutorial, subscribe to our channel or visit our website, grapholistic.com

I had the opportunities to analyze handwritings for the past 24 years of close encounters, friends, family members, strangers, clients, interview candidates and employees. In which, all of them were from different backgrounds.

The best part?

None of any of these handwritings is the same. Not even one in comparison to another. 

In short: if you want to know more about what I had learnt from analyzing handwritings, you will enjoy reading this.

Let’s get started.

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Grapholistic Podcast Transcripts EPISODE 15 SEASON 1 
Written and Produced by S.Sulianah (Graphologist, Founder and HR and Management Consultant)
Grapholistic International
​www.grapholistic.com

Hi Everyone, welcome back to another episode of Grapholistic Podcast. The pod all about handwritings and characters analysis.

I am your podcaster, Sulianah. I am also the founder, the Graphologist and HR and Management Consultant of Grapholistic International.

Grapholistic International is a company which I had started for over 20 years specializing on personality development using the science of handwriting analysis.

​In this episode I will continue to the next trait that could lower your self-esteem, which is timidity.

Feeling timid is not only something which you will feel, in fact, if you have this, it will be obvious on the eye of the beholder. That is to anyone you are talking to. When you enter the room, it can be felt from your aura, your posture, your eyes and also the way you speak. This is something not only you are thinking to yourself like you are not as good as anyone else, you are looking down at yourself, you don’t look as good as them, you have a low status and all, these thoughts you have about yourself can be sensed by the other person who is observing you or who is having a conversation with you.

In which whenever this happens, that thoughts you have about yourself will gradually or sometimes in an instant lower your self-esteem and your self-confidence. Ask yourself why do you feel like this especially when you are with other people, whenever you are with your friends, your co-workers or anytime you socialize in public. 

Now the question is how can I not feel timid? How to not release that weak energy within myself? How can I get rid of the unassured way of thinking out of my mind and my day-to-day habits?
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1. First and foremost, you must learn to change the way you speak to yourself. Never ever talk to yourself in a downgrading negative way. This includes the tone of voice you use to yourself. As simple as I can do better in a positive encouraging way, or I thought you said You can do better to yourself in a discouraging sarcastic way.
   
   
2. Next what you can do is; you have to learn to also identify your strengths and then be grateful with that good side of you. As modest as being able to wake up every morning.
   
   
3. The third point is, stop comparing yourself with others. This will not only get rid of your inferiority mindset, it will also help you get rid of anxiety and panic anticipating the unnecessary. Remember this, everyone of us has our own life. We are more concerned about how we look instead of how others does. We are more focus on whether we get to achieve our goals or how we can complete our daily tasks everyday. We usually do not have time or concerns to think about you. Unless we are interested in you. Even if someone is interested in you, he or she will be thinking about you in a way that they like you, and the times they had with you that are usually positive moments.
   
   So, don’t worry too much if you are concern about what others are thinking about you or whether you are better than them. Well, that is a good sign for you to also not compare yourself with them. 
   
   
4. And another point which you need to learn to train your mind are the perspectives you have for your personal growth. If you noticed that you have specific weaknesses or another word that I prefer to use instead of weakness is limitations, and you think that it can be changed, then do something to it. Find ways to improve on it. Make it a goal to change. For yourself not for others. Because if you do for others usually it will not last. But if you do for yourself, to be better at it then usually you will have longer stamina to complete those goals. Then, when you ended up improved and be good at that, no need to be perfect though, you can use it for the benefit of others. Whatever it is, the first thing is to learn to train yourself first before sharing with others so you will have more confident with whatever you intend to contribute.

You might still be wondering whether your low self-confidence has anything to do with being inferior about yourself.

One of the ways you can check is by using the science of handwriting analysis. Another word for the study of handwritings is called graphology that is by checking through the presence or absence of specific traits on your handwriting.

There is no simple rule like 1+1=2 when analysing handwriting. There is no rule that says having one trait correlates to another handwriting trait. I cannot say to you now that everyone with handwriting traits that shows timidity will also have low self-esteem or low productivity. That is not how analysis work. When I analyse handwritings I will be looking at the entity as a whole. But for the sake of explaining in this audio, I will be brief so you can learn the simplest part of it. 

If you would like to see the visual explanations, you can visit our website at www.grapholistic.com or our YouTube Channel, Grapholistic International.

Usually based on the analysis of handwritings, I will asked feedbacks from the individuals during the handwriting analysis sessions whether they did behaved specifically like that, or think like that according to their personality.

As for the cases or instances when I noticed timidity traits on handwritings, 99.9% of the time these individuals do experienced, feel and think that way.

What are the handwriting traits that can be identified that signifies timidity, inferiority, lack of courage and anything similar to that? 

Go and find a notebook or a paper. Write 3 to 4 lines of sentences on a paper or you can use your notes which you had written recently. Remember to add in your signature. Let us see if whatever your negative thoughts that you have in your mind has anything to do with timidity.

​I am going to share with you four handwriting traits here.

1. The first trait, check your right margin. How far did you end your sentences? Is it near to the right margin or far away? If the space is far from your right margin, that is roughly about 1.5 ~ 1.8 inches and above. This handwriting trait signifies over cautiousness, that stops you from moving forward or moving on. When you have this trait, you will be worried that any decisions you make will fail and it will ruin you or others. You will be worried and afraid to move forward and to be in your future.

In terms of socializing, usually you will feel uneasy when you are in contact with others, hence you will avoid to be in that situations.

​2. Another handwriting trait is to check whether there are very wide spacing between your sentences. If you noticed you write like this, this trait signifies isolation. You have the need to keep a distance from anyone around you. You usually feel that your privacy and your space is being invaded.

​3. The third handwriting trait would be the size of your signature. Is it smaller than your main text? Your main text is the main part of your notes and compositions. If your signature is smaller than your main text, this signifies lack of courage and confidence in your personality. 

4. In addition, if your signature is not only smaller than your main text but you placed it on the left side of the paper, then the intensity of this trait will be higher. Especially when you are in social settings, you would usually end up in the circle of friends that you are already comfortable with or maybe ended up not joining the gathering at all. Because from your perspective, you do not feel confident about yourself. I am not talking about avoiding the group of people that might not match your personality or they are the bad mean group of friends that of course in this case you should avoid. What I meant here is how you perceived yourself in comparison to when you are with others. You might feel like you are small, you have no talents, you are incapable, you are poor, you have no status, you are a loser. Those kind of perspectives you have towards yourself when in fact you are not any of those in actual. 

The next step is how to change your timidity personality trait through changing your handwriting apart from the solution I shared earlier? With this method called Graphotherapy, which is a technique to change your personality through your handwriting. 

​1. Consciously end your sentences nearer to the right margin. Not till the edge. Leave at least 0.5 to 0.8 inches. If you write till the edge, it will have a different point of significance. So don’t do that.

Then talk to your mind and to yourself and says that “Whatever there are in the past let go of it. Use those past experiences as reminder just so I will not repeat the same mistakes if needed to. Other than that, it is time to let go and move forward. There are more beautiful and wonderful experiences waiting for me. I attract only people with positivity and good energy and intention.”

​2. Then when you continue on the next line, just leave a moderate space between sentences. Sometimes if you change one handwriting trait, another handwriting will change automatically. As for this, observe whether there is any changes after you tried Graphotherapy for the first one. 

​3. Moving on to the third point, the other change that you can alter on your handwriting would be to adjust the size of your signature. Increase it to either the same size like your main text or you can increase your signature in 0.2 to 0.4x larger than your main text. Not too big just moderately larger. Remember that your signature signifies how you represent yourself in public. That is your public relation. If your signature is small, that shows how you want yourself to be perceived by your boss, your colleagues, your friends and anyone you randomly meet in public. 

4. The last handwriting trait which I mentioned was the small signature and the placement of your signature on the paper. As for this, I am not going to tell you to use Graphotherapy to adjust where to sign on your paper. Because you have to feel comfortable with yourself first before heading towards being openly comfortable to socialize with others.

And also, for this trait usually if a person is comfortable to be with others, they will automatically sign on the right side of the paper. And if not, it is still okay as long as you do not feel lack of courage when you are with people. 

Okay everyone that is all for this episode. Remember that any thoughts that you allow to enter your mind will make a difference to the way you lead your life, the way you portray your physical self, the people you will attract to be part of you, and how you will be handling the challenges you encounter in your life.

And traits like timidity which is another word for lacking courage, being inferior, feeling small, thinking that you are not worth it, thinking that others are better than you are so you are not worth it and anything similar to these should not even be allowed to enter your mind, your thoughts and your feelings. Do something to it if ever you have this perspective towards yourself. 

To get your handwriting analyzed for yourself, your partner or your employees, or your interview candidates, visit our website at www.grapholistic.com to select the suitable packages ranging from basic to comprehensive graphology reports and Graphotherapy consultation. Our Graphologist is also available for events bookings, seminars and trainings wherever you are in the world.

In the meantime, I wish you will find positivity from listening to this episode.
Stay safe and have a great week ahead!

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There could be clear or innate expectations that you will look for in an employee doesn’t matter whether you are recruiting fresh from the open market or from recommendations. The candidate should have the characteristics that fits your company’s objectives, with the appropriate work ethics apart from the ability to perform the roles and responsibilities of the position.

I had worked in corporate organisations for 20 years and had the opportunities to observe but  also be a part of the decision-making process in recruiting and managing personnel with the employers and business owners.

The one area in recruitment that I still questioned the effectiveness is the practice when employers recruit an individual based on the recommendations from their friends and acquaintances without analyzing the person’s characters first. Ignoring all the red flags which are obscured by the relationship they have with the person who had made the recommendation. It was like watching your parents take in a stranger into the house and let them stay with you. This is similar to when your employer does the same without knowing the candidate’s background, work ethics, or even asking in-depth questions that means an official job interview. And of course, in this case there is no such thing anymore as decision-making using their intuition. Recruiting decisions were solely by “Let us help my friend’s friend”, “Let us find something for him to do eventually we will get him a suitable position”,  “Oh I trust my friend so this person should be good”. At times, these individuals are not even needed by the company and eventually became a redundant resource. And most of the time, the employees do not fit in the company, become a problematic liability and then the employer and teams will end up in a backwards spiral or trying to save the company’s reputation. 

​This case study’s focal point is one of the many similar examples of A liability that could have been avoided in the first place if you learn from your past mistakes and intuition. It is one of those case studies that I hope employers and business owners should read. I had categorized this case in the negative spectrum. This spectrum is a nightmare of an experience for HR managers, executives, directors and employers as it involves employee’s work performance and most importantly work ethic. The employee in this case study used to work with this company for about 5 years before he was terminated due to his unacceptable behavior towards a client and staff, using words that were unpleasant and unprofessional. 

​Profile: Senior Engineer. Hector (not his actual name)
Age: 60+ years old
Worked with the company for about 5 years. Was an employee with the company few years back, but his contract were terminated due to his performance and cheating on his overtime reports. 

The following analysis were my personal observation as a HR Executive during the first year of this engineer’s employment. This was about 15 years ago when my boss who is now my ex-employer decided to recruit Hector as a full-time engineer in the company. When my ex-boss informed me of his decision to recruit Hector just because Hector approached him for help of an employment, I had expressed my disagreement and listed down my reasons.

When I first met him I didn’t know the back story of his previous termination with the company so I had relied on my personal impartial observation and analysis. Everything about my analysis of Hector especially my intuition screamed ‘Nope’ and ‘To be careful’. There were tints of This guy cannot be trusted when I was first introduced to him, and I could feel negative energy when he first entered the meeting room. When my ex-boss left me with him to settle the official employment process, he was totally different from before. He was arrogant and clearly acted in a way telling me who was 30 years younger than him that he is the superior one and has all the authority to influence anyone. And again, the uncomfortable energy that I was sensing during that time was actually more than whatever he had showed himself as. My feedback to my ex-boss about my perspectives were totally ignored. Thinking of it later it was not surprising since my ex-boss will usually recruit either his friends or friends’ friends based on his relationships with them. I let him be, however, at my side I interacted with Hector with a lot of precautions.
 
A few months later, there was this an incident that happened when Hector approached me and questioned about his salary. He questioned in an authoritative tone of voice once again how his salary does not fit with the consultation rates that our company had proposed to our client for a project he was involved in. Meaning, why is he getting a salary for example $4,000 per month when the project deal was closed at $350,000. A question that was unexpected. First and foremost is how can a person who kept bragging to his co-workers and employer that he has years of work experiences could not understand how running a business works. Since Hector has arrogance and egoistic in his character, I replied with “You actually have no rights to questioned how much the company charge the client. You had agreed with the salary he offered to you so whatever the company earned is actually none of your business.” I was expecting him to respond to me with another attack, but he turned timid right after that. I reported this case to my ex-boss immediately just in case the story turns to another telenovela if he heard it directly from Hector. Like I mentioned earlier, I had to take extra precautions when dealing with Hector.
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In the first few years of when Hector was on employment with us, I did not use my handwriting analysis (graphology) skills to look into Hector’s handwriting because at that time I wanted to challenge myself to learn to also understand people through their body language, tone of their voice, behavior and also learn to test my intuition and analysis. 

During the first few years of Hector’s employment, there were evidence of his eat snake attitude. Eat snake is a phrase we use in Asia mainly Singapore and Malaysia which originates from a Hokkien phrase, Jiak Zhua. This means avoiding responsibilities and slacking off from tasks. Other co-workers who had worked  with him in projects had reported to the boss of his eat snake attitude. Reports were not completed, overseas projects that he was assigned by the boss to be the main person of contact ended up haywire.  Not only that they were victims of him whenever he will twist their words and stories for his advantage. Employees management were so bad at the project site he was in that I had to travel overseas to talk to the team members and him. His communication with our client, his co-workers and the company management were terribly unpleasant and not organised. There was an instance that he tried to embarrass our company in front of a client by complaining loudly in the client’s office main area without thinking about our company’s reputation that I had to hit his leg under the table to tell him to shut it up. And there were two instances that because of him, two well performed good employees left the company and another was terminated.

The employee who decided to leave the company had reported to our company that Hector cheated when reporting machines testing results for the project. Instead of siding to this employee, our ex-boss trusted Hector even though there were clear evidences. In terms of work performance and work ethics, I would rate this employee is at 10 while Hector is at 0.1 with a scale of 10 as most reliable and with good performance.

The other case was a tragic story because this employee who was terminated trusted Hector. This employee who also owns an employment agency company which my ex-boss was well aware of had told Hector that when he will be stationed in China with him, he will be taking the opportunities to also look into the market to expand his business. Yes it was a conflict of interest but also he trusted the wrong person to share his plans. So, Hector notified the boss behind his back. And because of that this employee was terminated immediately. Between Hector and this employee, the work performance is also totally incomparable. Hector will be at 0.1 while this employee is at 9.5 but all those again does not matter to the ex-boss in this case apparently.

In terms of trustworthiness, from the personal relationships’ perspectives between Hector and his co-worker, he was well-known as someone who the co-workers will avoid at any cost. From the side of professionalism which is encompassing responsibilities such as writing reports and completing projects, Hector does not fit to be in the scale of the Trustworthy and Reliable Employee category. However for the sake of this case study, I am placing him at 0.1 even though personally I will put him as 0.0. 

​Let us study his handwriting whether he is actually that person that I had just analysed earlier solely based on my observations of his behavior, characters, mindset and work ethics. 

Hector’s handwriting form is thready. A wavy thread of connections between letters. This kind of handwriting is considered as cursory and is written with speed. There are words that are indecipherable because of the fast movement of the writing such as work or write? for or fr? airside or forside? Rm or Run?

​The positive part of the analysis of someone with a thready handwriting: adaptable in whatever conditions and situations he is in, able to make use of opportunities when he finds fit, diplomacy, with a considerable physical action, and inventive (Cited Nezos R., 2006). 

After understanding an employee through your observations and analysing their personality through their handwriting, what is that one step further that you need to do to solve any issues that could arise? If your employee has the filiform, thready handwriting and they do not use it in a way that will impact your company’s business and your other employees, then leave them be.

However, if you have noticed those traits dominating your employee and negatively impacting your employees who are with good work ethics, good performance and behaviour leaving your company because of this one person’s behaviour, you have to open your eyes and mind to decide logically. For this case study, Hector’s boss was blinded by Hector’s assumed loyalty and let himself be manipulated for 5 years and not forgetting the previous 3 years. When you are running your business, be open to listen to your other employees who would have been giving you feedback about this person over the years. Personal relationships should be set aside when you are managing your business because you will lose the employees who genuinely would like to work hand-in-hand with you to build your company and also for their personal growth.
 
Learn to be self-aware, self-conscious when you observe your employees and make any decisions. Ask yourself the basis of your decision to justify why you are deciding to trust A but not B. Because in a span of as short as one year, your decision to let the good employee go and give someone like Hector to breed in your company, you will not only lose that one good employee, but you are also actually piling doubts in the other employees’ minds because of your favouritism, indecisions, and biasness. And you will keep repeating this same process for years and years, adamant and ended up being stagnant in your personal growth. Eventually 8 years later, the ones who will be left behind with you in your company are all the Hectors.