This article is written for the 16th episode of Grapholistic Podcast! In this episode, we shared about how you can use graphotherapy to build confidence in your handwriting, and ultimately, in yourself. Read episode 16 transcript.
As a handwriting analyst and HR and Management Consultant with over 20 years of experience, I've seen first-hand how handwriting can be a window into a person's personality and character. And one of the key traits that can hold people back in their personal and professional lives is a lack of confidence and low self-perception about oneself. It's important to note that confidence and self-esteem are not the same thing. You can be confident in a particular area or situation, but still struggle with low self-esteem overall. Conversely, you can have high self-esteem but lack confidence in certain areas. So, how can you use graphotherapy to build confidence in your handwriting and yourself? Let's dive in. The first step is to identify any negative self-talk that may be holding you back. These are the thoughts and beliefs that tell you you're not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough to achieve your goals. They can be subtle, but they can have a big impact on your confidence. One way to identify negative self-talk is by looking at your handwriting. Specifically, look at the placement of the t-bar on the t-stem. If it's low, it can signify low self-esteem and a tendency to look down on yourself. This can lead to a pessimistic outlook and a belief that you can't succeed, which can contribute to depression. To combat this negative self-talk, use graphotherapy to practice raising the t-bar on the t-stem. Refer to image as follows. This can help you shift your mindset and start seeing yourself in a more positive light.
Remember, don't let the t-bar fly off from its root as shown below. This can symbolize a tendency to talk but not put your words into action.
Another way to build confidence through graphotherapy is by examining the size and placement of your signature. If your signature is smaller than the main composition of your handwriting, it can signify a lack of confidence and a belief that you're not as good as others. Conversely, if your signature is larger, it can signify a desire for attention and recognition.
To build confidence in your signature, practice making it slightly larger than your main composition, and more prominent. This can help you feel more confident and assertive in your interactions with others. Of course, building confidence is not just about changing your handwriting. It also requires changing your mindset and taking action to overcome your fears and doubts. Here are a few tips to help you get started: 1. First and foremost, practice positive self-talk. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones, and focus on your strengths and accomplishments rather than your weaknesses. 2. Set small, achievable goals. Start with something manageable and work your way up. Celebrate your successes along the way. 3. Step outside of your comfort zone. Try something new, even if it scares you. You might surprise yourself with what you are capable of. 4. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people. Seek out friends, family members, or colleagues who will encourage and uplift you. Stay away from the ones who likes to complain and demean you. Their negative speeches could eventually let your confidence down. In addition to these tips, consider seeking out professional help if you're struggling with low self-esteem or confidence. A therapist or counselor can help you work through your feelings and develop strategies for building your confidence and self-esteem. You can also get your handwritings analysed first to find out more about yourself that could be hidden from you all this while. And through Graphotherapy and personality development consultation, we could support your journey to building your self-esteem and confidence. Finally, if you're interested in learning more about graphotherapy and how it can help you build confidence in your handwriting and yourself, check out our recently published eBooks. In conclusion, building self-confidence is a journey that takes time and effort. By using graphotherapy techniques and other strategies, you can take steps towards a more confident and fulfilling life. Remember to be patient and kind to yourself. Confidence is not something that is fixed or unattainable - it is a skill that can be developed and nurtured. To re-post these contents on your website, social media, blogs, articles, YouTube etc, please remember to cite the Author's name, S.Sulianah, and link to her company's website www.grapholistic.com
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Grapholistic Podcast Transcripts EPISODE 15 SEASON 1
Written and Produced by S.Sulianah (Graphologist, Founder and HR and Management Consultant) Grapholistic International www.grapholistic.com
Hi Everyone, welcome back to another episode of Grapholistic Podcast. The pod all about handwritings and characters analysis.
I am your podcaster, Sulianah. I am also the founder, the Graphologist and HR and Management Consultant of Grapholistic International. Grapholistic International is a company which I had started for over 20 years specializing on personality development using the science of handwriting analysis. How it is to feel timid?
In this episode I will continue to the next trait that could lower your self-esteem, which is timidity.
Feeling timid is not only something which you will feel, in fact, if you have this, it will be obvious on the eye of the beholder. That is to anyone you are talking to. When you enter the room, it can be felt from your aura, your posture, your eyes and also the way you speak. This is something not only you are thinking to yourself like you are not as good as anyone else, you are looking down at yourself, you don’t look as good as them, you have a low status and all, these thoughts you have about yourself can be sensed by the other person who is observing you or who is having a conversation with you. In which whenever this happens, that thoughts you have about yourself will gradually or sometimes in an instant lower your self-esteem and your self-confidence. Ask yourself why do you feel like this especially when you are with other people, whenever you are with your friends, your co-workers or anytime you socialize in public. Ask yourself these questions…
What are the simplest solutions?
Now the question is how can I not feel timid? How to not release that weak energy within myself? How can I get rid of the unassured way of thinking out of my mind and my day-to-day habits?
How can you identify timidity on your handwriting?
You might still be wondering whether your low self-confidence has anything to do with being inferior about yourself.
One of the ways you can check is by using the science of handwriting analysis. Another word for the study of handwritings is called graphology that is by checking through the presence or absence of specific traits on your handwriting. There is no simple rule like 1+1=2 when analysing handwriting. There is no rule that says having one trait correlates to another handwriting trait. I cannot say to you now that everyone with handwriting traits that shows timidity will also have low self-esteem or low productivity. That is not how analysis work. When I analyse handwritings I will be looking at the entity as a whole. But for the sake of explaining in this audio, I will be brief so you can learn the simplest part of it. If you would like to see the visual explanations, you can visit our website at www.grapholistic.com or our YouTube Channel, Grapholistic International. Usually based on the analysis of handwritings, I will asked feedbacks from the individuals during the handwriting analysis sessions whether they did behaved specifically like that, or think like that according to their personality. As for the cases or instances when I noticed timidity traits on handwritings, 99.9% of the time these individuals do experienced, feel and think that way. What are the handwriting traits that can be identified that signifies timidity, inferiority, lack of courage and anything similar to that? Let us analyze your handwriting
Go and find a notebook or a paper. Write 3 to 4 lines of sentences on a paper or you can use your notes which you had written recently. Remember to add in your signature. Let us see if whatever your negative thoughts that you have in your mind has anything to do with timidity.
I am going to share with you four handwriting traits here.
1. The first trait, check your right margin. How far did you end your sentences? Is it near to the right margin or far away? If the space is far from your right margin, that is roughly about 1.5 ~ 1.8 inches and above. This handwriting trait signifies over cautiousness, that stops you from moving forward or moving on. When you have this trait, you will be worried that any decisions you make will fail and it will ruin you or others. You will be worried and afraid to move forward and to be in your future. In terms of socializing, usually you will feel uneasy when you are in contact with others, hence you will avoid to be in that situations.
2. Another handwriting trait is to check whether there are very wide spacing between your sentences. If you noticed you write like this, this trait signifies isolation. You have the need to keep a distance from anyone around you. You usually feel that your privacy and your space is being invaded.
3. The third handwriting trait would be the size of your signature. Is it smaller than your main text? Your main text is the main part of your notes and compositions. If your signature is smaller than your main text, this signifies lack of courage and confidence in your personality.
4. In addition, if your signature is not only smaller than your main text but you placed it on the left side of the paper, then the intensity of this trait will be higher. Especially when you are in social settings, you would usually end up in the circle of friends that you are already comfortable with or maybe ended up not joining the gathering at all. Because from your perspective, you do not feel confident about yourself. I am not talking about avoiding the group of people that might not match your personality or they are the bad mean group of friends that of course in this case you should avoid. What I meant here is how you perceived yourself in comparison to when you are with others. You might feel like you are small, you have no talents, you are incapable, you are poor, you have no status, you are a loser. Those kind of perspectives you have towards yourself when in fact you are not any of those in actual.
How can you change and eliminate timidity with Graphotherapy?
The next step is how to change your timidity personality trait through changing your handwriting apart from the solution I shared earlier? With this method called Graphotherapy, which is a technique to change your personality through your handwriting.
1. Consciously end your sentences nearer to the right margin. Not till the edge. Leave at least 0.5 to 0.8 inches. If you write till the edge, it will have a different point of significance. So don’t do that.
Then talk to your mind and to yourself and says that “Whatever there are in the past let go of it. Use those past experiences as reminder just so I will not repeat the same mistakes if needed to. Other than that, it is time to let go and move forward. There are more beautiful and wonderful experiences waiting for me. I attract only people with positivity and good energy and intention.”
2. Then when you continue on the next line, just leave a moderate space between sentences. Sometimes if you change one handwriting trait, another handwriting will change automatically. As for this, observe whether there is any changes after you tried Graphotherapy for the first one.
3. Moving on to the third point, the other change that you can alter on your handwriting would be to adjust the size of your signature. Increase it to either the same size like your main text or you can increase your signature in 0.2 to 0.4x larger than your main text. Not too big just moderately larger. Remember that your signature signifies how you represent yourself in public. That is your public relation. If your signature is small, that shows how you want yourself to be perceived by your boss, your colleagues, your friends and anyone you randomly meet in public.
4. The last handwriting trait which I mentioned was the small signature and the placement of your signature on the paper. As for this, I am not going to tell you to use Graphotherapy to adjust where to sign on your paper. Because you have to feel comfortable with yourself first before heading towards being openly comfortable to socialize with others.
And also, for this trait usually if a person is comfortable to be with others, they will automatically sign on the right side of the paper. And if not, it is still okay as long as you do not feel lack of courage when you are with people.
Okay everyone that is all for this episode. Remember that any thoughts that you allow to enter your mind will make a difference to the way you lead your life, the way you portray your physical self, the people you will attract to be part of you, and how you will be handling the challenges you encounter in your life.
And traits like timidity which is another word for lacking courage, being inferior, feeling small, thinking that you are not worth it, thinking that others are better than you are so you are not worth it and anything similar to these should not even be allowed to enter your mind, your thoughts and your feelings. Do something to it if ever you have this perspective towards yourself.
To get your handwriting analyzed for yourself, your partner or your employees, or your interview candidates, visit our website at www.grapholistic.com to select the suitable packages ranging from basic to comprehensive graphology reports and Graphotherapy consultation. Our Graphologist is also available for events bookings, seminars and trainings wherever you are in the world.
In the meantime, I wish you will find positivity from listening to this episode. Stay safe and have a great week ahead! To re-post these contents on your website, social media, blogs, articles, YouTube etc, please remember to cite the Author's name, S.Sulianah, and link to her company's website www.grapholistic.com
Author: S.Sulianah (Graphologist and Founder of Grapholistic International)
Your Handwritings and Characters Analyst www.grapholistic.com
If you are wondering, why am I including fickle-mindedness in the list of traits that could hinder your self-esteem and development, and how could it possibly influence your self-esteem?
Apart from the self-criticism trait that was highlighted in the earlier episode, the fickle-minded trait will make you questioned yourself and continuously changing your decisions. It shows how you are not confident with your perspectives, opinions and even your own analysis. It tells you and of course the other people that you are working with or living with, that you have no idea why you had even made that decisions in the first place. Furthermore, this trait will not only lower the perception you have towards yourself and diminish the confidence to make decision on your own, it will also affect your relationship with others. When you constantly decide in an erratic way, it will be unpleasant and irritating to those people who are affected by your indecision. Gradually, you will create distrusts. Those people who you are dealing with will questioned not only your leadership, most importantly your credibility and reliability. What could be the possible causes of someone being fickle-minded?
To begin with, being inconsistent and unsure when making decisions can happen when you have no idea what is going on. Or even if you do, you may not be sure about that subject or could be that you do not have any experiences dealing in that kind of situations.
Because you were not sure, you might be worried that “What if your decision could affect the entire team in a wrong way, or even tear apart the whole plan?” Well, those worries are valid. Like for instance, your team is trying to save someone from drowning. The first step probably is to dive straight to the lake which you had instructed. But then suddenly someone saw an alligator. In this case, clearly you need to change the decision by probably getting a boat or rope instead of diving straight ahead to help. Changing decision like in this case is understandable. The kind of fickle decisions which could make you doubt yourself, or people to doubt your reliability is when you keep changing your 'final decisions' solely relying on others’ opinions. For instance, you have decided with your team to fix those ceiling lights in your office. As usual, you had instructed your staff to source for suppliers and purchase those lights. Once you received the delivered items 2 weeks later, out of nowhere one of your friends who came to visit you in the office suggested you change the lights to bulb instead of LED. You decided to listen to your friend’s opinion even though you had spent hours deciding with your staff that LED is less costly for your office monthly electricity expenses. You listened to a friend who was not involved in the decision-making and has no idea what is going on. The point is you rely on external inputs, wasting time and money. You did not even stop to think about it yourself. From your position you might not realized that your behavior is evident to your staff clearly showing how you are not confident with your own decisions and could easily be influenced. It is worst if this is not your first time.
Because of the way he make decisions, employees do not trust him. They may look like they listened but in fact once they get out of the meeting, they let it go. It was not a surprise when employees could not handle it anymore that they decided to leave. Being fickle in small decisions for your personal one person situations may not affect anyone but if you are working in an organization, doesn’t matter whether you lead a team or not, the way you think, respond and when taking actions will impact you and other groups of people in a larger scale.
So, how can you make changes in the way you think?
How to check the handwriting for fickle or inconsistent thinking and decision-making?
What can you do if you have these handwriting traits?
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How Self-Criticism Traits can developed in our life?
Self-criticism can be developed either by ourselves or when we are brought up in that environment. The environment could be by our parents, siblings, friends you spend time with and anyone you spent your time with. This can also be developed by yourself from the past experiences and if it is self-criticizing, we can say that those are unpleasant and negative experiences which usually are the ones that had made a negative impact to you.
So, are you a person who always criticized yourself?
So, how can you identify self-criticism and whether you are experiencing this? There are signs such as you keep blaming yourself for anything wrong that had happened in your life. Any mistakes or tragedy that had happened which sometimes might not be even related to you but because of external factors but you still put the blame on yourself. Other than that, are the way you speak to yourself. Like “Urgh you are so stupid” “Or you can do better. You should have done better”. The tone of your voice which you used with yourself is negative, the same like how those others speak to you.
How can you eliminate self-criticisms from within you?
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