What is the truth behind the resistance? What are the factors that are stopping you from doing what you had planned and have in mind? Have you ever asked yourself these questions?
You have a lot to do in mind. A lot of new experiences that you would like to venture. But did you ever make the first step to do it?
How to start is the standard question we will ask ourselves. It is common, because we are clueless. We have no idea how we can start to do it. What are the skills we need? Do we have enough money to pay for the cost? And then the ultimate question is, what if we fail? These whats and what-ifs are the ones messing in our head before deciding to make the first step. We are worried. It is fine to feel or think like that. As a human, that is how some minds works.
As long as you find out what are the potential mind playing games that could have stop or hold you back, you can have that inner dialog with yourself.
Let us not discuss about the external “noise” which could hold you back and give yourself an excuse that these people are holding you back. Remember, you cannot change people or stop them from talking about you either face-to-face or behind your back. It doesn’t matter. Ignore them. They could be someone who is closest to you like your mum or dad, friends who you hangout with, or even random strangers who at their own accord will tell you the things you should not do to achieve your goals.
Personally, most of the time, I will avoid telling people of what I want to do and my plans, except to one or two whom I trust. These are the people who listen, will not cut my conversations, and if ever they have their own experiences to share just so I can use it as a guide, they will make sure to listen first. Sometimes I do share randomly with acquaintances and strangers during conversation in public transport or even one-time at Long John’s Silver. These are people who emits positive aura and will encourage you in seconds when you need it. Naturally, I will avoid people who don’t make me feel good and I will take the risk of building gaps with them especially when it affects me in some way. You will notice the difference especially in raising your mood to work towards the goal you have in mind. So, if these are your excuses that stops you from putting your goals into action, I had given you some tips just so you know how to handle it.
Back to asking yourself the truth behind that resistance.
Firstly, you have to ask yourself what exactly you want for yourself. And has these goals and dreams been living in your head for a long time. This inner dialog is one of those things you live with. And every day when you lead your life, it is there at the back of your mind to remind you the greater good that you are heading to.
Then, make small steps towards it.
For instance, you have been wanting to run your own business empires and study until you own a PhD, since you were 14 years old.
There is this subconscious energy that will attract you to that visualization and dreams of yours. Whenever at times you will be out of rail and too tired to continue, that visualization stored in your subconscious is stronger than you think it is.
Remember the excuse of worrying too much like, “Oh, how can I do that if I don’t have enough money? What if I fail?” or "I am an introvert. I have social anxiety problem. I am too shy to speak to people."
Let me share with you based on my personal experiences as of recent. When it is time, everything will fall in to place. You will be surprised that when that moment happens, you will have abundance of support like you have never ever have it before. And then you will ask yourself, how can this even be possible? Where does it come from? Even though those sources are the seeds that you have been planting the past years.
That resistance we are talking about comes within you. Ask yourself how hungry you are to be in that position you have been visualizing for the past twenty-four years? Ask yourself how important is that for you that define your identity and value? Because when you have all these answers, it will come to you naturally while you work for it.
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Written by S.Sulianah
The writing material which we will be using to write is as important as any other factors to produce an authentic handwriting. When we use a specific type of pen or a pencil, the handwriting results tend to have contrast with the another.
The handwriting’s pressure, flow, movement, consistency, the energy to write and the overall look of the written document will show difference even though the strokes and all will be the same throughout.
In the science of handwriting analysis, to analyse a handwriting, we will advised our client to write in pencil just so we can observe the pressure throughout. In this article, we are interested in the comfort while writing. Because if you write with stiffness just to be as comfortable as possible with the ball point pen which you are not used to, it will affect the analysis’ accuracy.
These are the different results which you can see written by the same person using different type of pens or pencils.
What you should do when you write?
Written By S.Sulianah
Writing posture is one of the core factors to consider when we analyse handwriting of individuals. How the writer positioned herself will affect her handwriting’s strokes, pressure, rhythm and many other areas. This will eventually affect the accuracy in the analysis.
When you write something such as a note or letter to someone, you want to make sure it looks good and authentic. So does the person receiving the letter.
What is the advisable writing posture for an accurate handwriting analysis result?
It is advisable to sit when you write. Doesn’t matter on a bar highchair or the dining chair as long as the height is comfortable. Not too high or too low. Make sure your shoulder and arm are not restraining the movement while you are writing.
Written By S.Sulianah MSc, BA, Dip
Calcarea Fluorica (Calc. Fluor) is the first remedy in The Biochemic System of Medicine.
I have always related it as the remedy to solve any deficiency in elasticity of the skin, cells and bowels. I will complement this remedy with Calc. Phos, Kali Phos, Nat Phos and Mag Phos whenever I have problems with digestion which could result in abdominal bloating as mentioned in the earlier article on how Calc. Phos could improve digestion.
It makes a lot of difference because anything we eat might be able to digest, but does that mean the waste could be released easily from our body?
Another common use of Calc. Fluor is for ulcers. Four days ago, I had one which forms inside my mouth near the lips. As always, ulcers can be painful and most importantly distracting. I had attributed it to either dehydration, or my teeth accidentally bite it when I was sleeping.
I did not do anything to it for three days thinking that if I bite it off, it will secrete the pus and eventually will be gone. Well, I was right. It was gone but within the same day, it grew again.
On the fourth day around 4pm, I had decided to take three globules of Calc. Fluor. The ulcer subsided within the next hour. Take note that it depends on how your body responded to these remedies. Mine most of the time is quite immediate in less than 30 minutes.
There are other symptoms such as the skin near my fingers are chapped and dry, which is a signal to me that there is something deficient in my body.
What is Calcarea Fluorica?
Calcarea Fluorica is also known as Fluor-Spar, beautifully crystallized in lead-veins in nature. In our body, it is found in the surface of the bones, enamel of the teeth, elastic fibres and the cells of the skin. When our body has deficiency of this tissue salt, the fibres causes a continued dilatation or relaxed condition. This is seen in conditions like varicose veins, relaxation of abdominal walls with consequent sagging of the abdominal viscera, uterine and tumours haemorrhages, etc (Cited in Materia Medica of the Twelve Biochemic Remedies by George W. Carey, M.D).
When there is relaxation in the elastic fibres of the blood vessels, connective tissue and lymphatic system, it will not able to absorb exudations. In order for exudations to be dismissed, having sufficient Calc Fluor will help to restore our body’s condition.